Don't work with your family

There's an old saying..."family shouldn't work for family". I have had to come to the realization that in my life, family shouldn't work "with" family, either. This  band was the first time I really noticed how family dynamics can get in the way of, or even destroy, something really good. But I refused to believe it. I have always believed that family should support each other and help each other. And I have always tried to do that. Although this was the first time I experienced evidence that it doesn't always work out that way, it would not be the last, because I guess I just didn't want it to be so. Although I have some thoughts about  why the dynamic between my twin brother and myself has been very difficult, and at times very destructive, I must say that I never felt I initiated it. I have always been supportive of him. And beyond that, to guess why it has, and continues to be at times, very toxic, and very destructive would be speculation on my part. Suffice it to say that being twins is a unique experience, and can be very difficult. And I always try to remember that our entire family was wounded by my Mom's murder, and the family has never healed, at least it has never felt like the way it did before my Mom's death. After this band, there were other bands that I put great faith and work into, and I would ask my twin brother to get involved with...either as a performer, or in a business capacity...and to consider us as allies and partners...and each time I did that, and I thought he would remember we were brothers, and put that family bond ahead of sibling rivalry, I was painfully disappointed. What caused that rivalry you will have to ask him about, because I don't have an answer. I have never felt like we were rivals, only brothers. But that doesn't change the fact that the pattern of destructive rivalry first showed up here, with this band, and it would show up again and again and again. I should have learned. Screw me once..shame on you, screw me twice...shame on me. But some lessons are harder to learn than others...and I guess this was one of them.